On the brink...

[tigerlily78]

Congrats and Good Luck JonF. It is inspires so much hope to read stories like yours.

I would say in my case my H pretty much latched on to the first OW who paid him some attention... might be the same for the OM here. My H is pretty shy and the OW initiated/pursued so that made it easy for him. She is pretty attractive, but has obvious psychological issues/circumstances that would have given any *sane* person quite a pause, but they are both emotionally damaged and looking to escape reality, so in that sense she is the "perfect" fit. Knowing her issues my H said they had both agreed to "take it slow"... but that lasted for all of about 3 days. I think it's not so much about the person, just that they are different and available and so not you.