Barb,

I think we all share more in common than not. I was in Subguy's boat: my XH left me for a whopping depression and lots of QT with alcohol. And I understand that about as much as you do in regards to your spouses leaving you for other people. NIL.

I can honestly tell you that the thought that I was so unattractive to choose nothing or nobody over me was something that landed me in a crisis of epic proportion. Just like you, I wound up doubting myself and it took a lot of work to crawl out of the hole of despair and doubt to get where I am. I'm 100% positive that I haven't completed this course, either.

While I didn't have the experience of finding out he was boinking someone else, I consider his departure a betrayal. He made vows to me that he refused to honor. I understand our spouses were unhappy, but the one thing we all share in common is that they felt their way was a justifiable means of resolving their inner demons and conflicts, and while none of us is truly innocent, none of us deserved the crap they handed to us either.

It svcked then, and it svcks now! Our kids are paying the price for their sh!tty choices.

I know this whole thread started out with the book by that bimbo. And I will add that I think her book is all about getting money and she's a self serving piece of crap without an ounce of remorse or sincerity in her "reflections". I hope it's not a bestseller. If it is one, then I hope that most of us agree that she's a deceitful POS.

Wow, I guess my client made me angrier than I thought...


"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."

Albert Einstein