Thanks, everyone, been quiet. I'm super busy at work; have stopped by to see W a couple times.
Since almost two weeks ago, she has been consistently the same. Very connected, texts me all the time to tell me she loves me; talks about how unbelievably disgusted she is with her self. As I said, won't mention OM by name, and almost seems revolted by him. Honestly, when it comes to contentious stuff, she is patient, and gracious, and asks me to take a deep breath, and just talk to her about my feelings. It's extremely weird.
From conversations, I've gleaned it is definitely as I suspected - W had no attraction to OM other than he was representative of a life that had no baggage or issues.
W had a fling with someone that she wasn't attracted to emotionally or physically. And I know looks aren't that important and many OPs tend to be much less attractive than the WAS. However, he is not just unattractive, he is VERY unattractive, 75 pounds over weight, sloppy, smelly - the exact opposite of W. W said his daughter just about drove her out of her mind because she was a horrible brat and OM just let her run around and break stuff, and she could barely stand to be around her.
I need some advice: if W would let herself sink that low, and all of a sudden have a wake-up call, and now be so unbelievably committed to me, can she even know what love is?
She said if she even thinks about OM it makes her physically sick to her stomach. So, if she was so messed up that she would connect in any way with a disgusting person, how can she possibly even know what it means to be in a loving, committed relationship?
Am I being impatient, or just bothered by the A itself, and need to work through it?
