Afraid I have waited too long

[nit84]

MrBond,
I agree and want to move back but when I bring it up she says we cant live under the roof together. I told her I could handle it if we did. I told her she is welcome to stay but if she couldn't handle it I would not stop her from moving out but would always be welcomed back. I am moving back for me not necessarily to reconcile but that would be a nice side effect.

She says she would need a signed agreement that would then carry through to the D. Then she would take her stuff and move out. I told her to write a list of things that she wants and I would look it over to see if I agree with it and go from there. She said she would need a couple weeks to do this. It has been four weeks so far and she said she was working on it but some things have come up that would delay her from completing the list. IMHO she is comfortable and not really ready to take this forward because she is unsure if she really wants the D.

one of the biggest reason I want to move back is to start fixing up the home in case we have to sell it. I don't want to sell I want to fix it up for us and possibly our future family. I think this would go a long way to helping us get back together because this has always been a complaint of hers that I don't fix up the house. Thinking if I started this process she would how much our home and M mean to me without having to say it and giving the impression that this is just to appease her.

My problem is how to tell her I am moving back in the least upsetting way so it doesn't turn into an ugly argument.

My parents and siblings are on board with me on moving back. I am sure she knows this but she has stopped over to see my parents and talked to my sister and brother since we had the conversation a month ago so I am at a loss why she would be keeping in contact with my family if she is planning on moving forward with the D.

Oh, one last thing she says she feels like we could do this D without getting any attys involved because of the cost and just do it ourselves because we are civil and have been together so long. She says she knows after all this is over we will be the best of friends and who knows a couple years down the road if we are meant to be together we will be. This is the part that baffles me. Why wont she try everything possible before D.