The man you need to be is something much greater than fixing the nits that annoyed your W. It is something you can do with or without her input, and it is something that will exist whether she is or isn't annoyed by new future things.
It's deciding if you're a doer or a procrastinator, a kind person or a mean one, a successful one or a lazy one, a thoughtful one who listens or a selfish one who doesn't hear, and so on. Your w's complaints may give you clues about things to work on, but ultimately figuring out how to be the best man you can be is something that you can figure out on your own and do.
I know you were just saying that in a kind of laughing way, which I get, but I wanted to make sure you know that a better man is the goal...not a man who has fixed the specific nits his wife complained about. One of those two gets the bigger picture and the other doesn't get it at all.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
