New to the board, fairly newly LBS from MLC.

[tigerlily78]

I am pretty sure his LL is not acts of service. I am/was one of those wives who went above and beyond to make his life really convenient and easy around the house. I am the fixer most of the time.

I think his is probably physical touch and words of affirmation, but I have been feeling self conscious about my weight and my body and we had fallen into that pattern where he really touched me as a direct precursor to ML, that doesn't really boost the self esteem. It begins to feel like a signal for "let go have ML" not "you are beautiful and sexy and I can't keep my hands off of you sometimes." *sigh*