New to the board, fairly newly LBS from MLC.

[RosaLinda]

Hi Lily. No I don't think you should give either list to your H. Remember our job in DBing is to STFU until they approach us, and then be friendly and approachable. So don't give him either list, but especially not your goals. That's for you alone.

But I think it would be a great idea to keep the list of things H did that you appreciate in mind, and thank him for one of them every couple of days. "I was thinking about that great dinner you made Tuesday, H, you are such a good cook, thanks." "I really appreciate you picking up S15 at school yesterday H, thanks so much."

Actions speak louder than words, especially if his love language is acts of service. And acts of service people need words of appreciation regarding their acts. Just my opinion though