Thanks tigerlily...I understand the consequences of my actions. It took me way too long to see it. And I agree that she is dealing with it as she feels she needs to for her.
I wish W had continued with her individual counseling, but I can't do anything about that. But it worries me she will not deal with the situation effectively, even if she files for divorce.
I have been as open as I can be with her. She does not call me at all...we see each other at work for only about 5 minutes, so conversation is limited. Outside of work, I do go over to the house for about an hour or 2 on the weekend to see the cats. W and I have conversation, but it is usually about the cats or small menial items.
Have sincerely asked for forgiveness several times over the past 3 months since she asked me to move out. No response each time.
I left my computer at the house when I moved out...she has the passwords for emails, etc...I'm not sure what more I can do while living apart to be transparent. She never asks about OW or about what I am doing, and hasn't since the end of August.
