I'm still confused as to why you think, or seem to think the adoption is a negative?
Tell us your thoughts, you really don't share those much. You ask lots of questions and seek input, which is good but what are you thinking? Are you angry that she wants to adopt this boy who she's raised for 6 years?
What is your true concern here?
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss