I am reading a book on communication, "Help Your Partner Say Yes" ... one of the first exercises is making a lost of things your spouse has done recently that you appreciate. I made the list, but am wondering if I should not actually give it to him.
Likewise, I made a list of my "goals/wants" for changes I would want to make in our relationship (most of them centered on my actions, a few are reciprocal). I feel like in a way the list if very much a validation of complaints he has had in the past, kind of like affirmation that I WAS listening and internalizing the feedback. But again, should I just table this for now? I am having a hard time judging whether the validation is worthwhile at this stage and if it is the proper time to plant these seeds ("I know there are changes to be made and I am getting started on the ones I can tackle on my own").
Insights?
me-35 WAS-37 T-16 1/2 Son-14 (HF Aspergers) BD,ILYBINILWY,"I met my soulmate": Oct5,2013 "Letting go because I love him, holding on because I love him."
