How to convince resistant LD wife?

[Ambivalent]

I've seen many LBS's go through this time and time again. 5 years worth of situations I've seen come and go.

What is it that you think I'm going through?

That I would think him a pervert? And what Path is that?

That I'm trying to accept what he needs to do? Understand that he is trying to figure things out?


Are you trying to help or provoke? I really don't get you or what you are trying to do or say?

"I can almost guess that your attitude is going to slowly change and you're going to see him as some kind of pervert."

This is projecting, and it comes across as very negative. It is disturbing . Perversion has never crossed my mind. Why would you even think
something like that?
He is trying to connect, trying to self-medicate. Does it hurt , absolutely!



I feel as if you are placing words in my mouth, when other words are ignored. Others that are clearly stating where I am at present.

It seems that the words:
probable, possible, and circumstantial have been ignored.

No one knows where they will be in the future, and you are reading anger and resentment where there is none.

Have I felt hate, anger, resentment? Yes, I've been married for 29 years, it comes with the territory. I've also felt joy, elation, passion, and incredible love.
I've felt pain, embarrassment, and sorrow as well.

Feelings and attitudes change, and sometimes people surprise you!
I'm sure I will have more feelings of pain in the future, but for now I'm not feeling as much anxiety as before.

Don't be so quick to judge based on other's behavior. Nor judge on my rants or venting. They are a release so I don't suppress my emotions , so it doesn't lead to resentment. Judging doesn't get us anywhere positive.

It's a simple warning of what could happen.

This is cryptic. What are you trying to say?

I'm trying to understand, but it seems you aren't hearing me.