Thanks Betsey! Yes having Marianne's support both as a friend and an oncology Nurse is a blessing.
As for Barbara, it is a disappointment to say the least but what are you going to do. Reminds me of the song "Love Stinks" by the J. Geils band - "You love her but she loves him And he loves somebody else you just can't win." Anyway, so my Match experience goes on for longer than I hoped. I have faith and confidence that it will all work out in the end.
As for the hockey stuff - the CAPs are holding their own in their division since everyone but Pittsburgh [censored]! Of course it's still early and who knows what will happen. Enjoy the ride the Avalanche are having and as long as they aren't playing our CAPs I wish you well!
Let me know about the game. I'm fine with just going to a sports bar and catching it there with you and Merrick. It might be easier. You can message me in the "alt (my RL alt)" if you want and we can work out the details, either for tickets or a place to meet up.
So I received an email from Barbara today. In my email on Sunday to her I had suggested going to hear the Fairfax Symphony play a series of Rachmaninov pieces this weekend along with a guest saxophone soloist (Carrie Koffman - who is awesome.) Here is her response:
"Dave, Once again, you have come up with unique and great date ideas. Your prose on your emails are also very fine. I don't feel that in person, though, we are connecting on the level that I want to connect with someone at this time. Which saddens me, because I think you are a great catch. I wish you all the health, happiness and love that you deserve. Take care, Barbara"
Gotta say this: your spidey sense is very accurate and you should feel VERY good about that. Even if she's not the right one, you have the ability to read people and situations correctly. So if anything, put that one down on your list of skills as you continue the march. It's worth something?
That being said, I'm sorry that you WERE right.
And I'm also glad that she was honest with you too.
Carry on, hot stuff!
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
I figured I should at least catch up, since the firemen's football party was this past Sunday.
It went well, and I met some very lovely people. The single fireman was nice - his name was Dean - and I meant to chat more with him than I did. But I met a woman who rocked my world. (No, not like that!) Actually, I wound up conversing with 2 of them most of the day. The rocking woman is a single mom who lost her Navy fighter pilot hubby to suicide 8 years ago. (He refused all help offered to him by the Navy and other professionals.) Then I chatted at length with her best friend from HS, who is a fireman who also retired from the Aurora PD and is friends with one of my dearest friends (who is a retired Aurora cop, along with her hubby); this friend's D19 is one of my D19's best friends. It's a very small world.
Then I got into a very deep conversation with the fire chief and the hostess's BF (also a fireman). It turned respectfully political and was all in all a good evening. If nothing else, I realized that I do need to make more of an effort to socialize more when I don't have D16. Plus, the food was amazing. AND my friend is also going to be my POC for D16's transition to guardianship and adult services, starting next March when she turns 17.
You might not be surprised, but the 2 women with whom I was entrenched in conversation have experienced the same things we have here - stuff like text messages with photos of junk, nasty text messages, breaking up via text, yadda yadda yadda. So we're not alone in this fight.
Nothing else much to report here. I'm going over to dinner to my above mentioned retired cop's house Saturday for dinner with D16. That should be fun. We're going to stream D19's volleyball match, if her team makes it to the 3rd round of the NCAA championships. On paper, it looks entirely possible. She and her team are definitely on a roll.
BA, I'll text Merrick tonight to see if he's okay with everything. He's not leaving for NYC until Thursday morning, so I'll convince him to pack beforehand. I'll buzz you in the alt after I touch base with him. For the record, my surprise is almost becoming painful. My folks offered to fly me out when they found out that D16 and Mr. Wonderful are heading to MT for TG and were horribly bummed when I told them no. LOL. I wound up telling D19 because she heard about their offer and thought I was being a jerk. THEN my sister and BIL booked their flights and I'm suddenly the one person who is missing from all this excitement. Ha ha. It should be worthwhile, though.
I guess I should get back to work. Especially since I lost almost 3 work days without phones or internet. It's just so nice outside that I don't feel like working. I already took a nice walk to Subway for lunch, but that apparently isn't enough for me. UGH. It's almost 70 degrees here today - which I realize is something to cherish right now, because it won't last.
TTFN,
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Well, shucky darn and poopy poop, BA! I'm so sorry to read about the latest with Barbara. I do agree with Betsey that you had a feeling about it all. Must mean there's something better right around the corner for you. Everything works out the way it's supposed to, but gosh darn it!
The holidays are coming and I think that's such a difficult time to date. Yet, maybe the elves will put her right in your stocking or under the tree. Who knows? You are amazing and she'll show up.
Was it 70 degrees here? Yikes...I never even stepped outside until 4:30. I have this unbelievable caseload of students needing more than I have to give. Just crazy what happens to kids early in life and carries through to middle school. The behaviors I'm having to change are incredible. It makes the days go quickly and it's a challenge; which I love.
On my dating front....the 60 year old is quite simply, amazing. Every time we're together it's better and better. The challenge is for me to find more time for him! It feels very safe, stable, trusting. We share so many things and a deep spiritual bond/connection. Heck! The guy even lived on a golf course! We'll just take it one day at a time.
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
BA: so sorry it didn't work out. I guess you felt it. I'm glad she was so pleasant about it though. Maybe it is the right time to take a break - with the holidays coming & your concern about your dad. A good time for reflection.
GG: sounds like you've found someone really compatible for you. Nice to hear. Enjoy!
BA, not to take away from the Barbara letdown, but I gotta share something strange from the wide, wide 'Net world that I think Wii would most appreciate here!
Didja know that there's a "professional" cuddler out there?? Ayup...you heard me right. There's a woman who apparently offers cuddling services that is strictly platonic. Seems that it requires a certain set of skills. To quote her, she sez "Having the right touch for the right person at that time is very specific."
She keeps profiles of her clients on their cuddling preferences and specific music.
Oh and she earns $60/per hour for each cuddling session!!!
Wii, if you find counseling to be a bit too much, this is right up your alley with your froggy friend!!
Frogger doesn't charge lol! BA, sorry about Barbara but I'm glad I pushed you to pay attention to your instincts rather than try to brush them off. Your day will come, my man. Nobody puts more effort into dating than you do and that will pay off But yes, do take a break, you need it to re-energize. You've got a lot on your plate right now with your Dad's sitch too.
Of course it's still early and who knows what will happen. Enjoy the ride the Avalanche are having and as long as they aren't playing our CAPs I wish you well! 
If I could, I'd switch teams to date you for a day, BA!!