Remorse is a good topic as well. Wonder how that is exhibited covertly? Hmmmm.....
Job speaks much wisdom. You'll see them try to insert themselves in your life over time. In my case, my ex remarried almost immediately after the divorce and then started to "harass" me about all kinds of mundane things. I once reminded her of something she said, and she flatly denied it. But I do recall the guilt she had at the time of leaving. It was hard to see that much guilt on somebody. There was no way to reach her or help her with it, but you could feel it. It was palpable.
Remorse? I haven't a clue what that would look like, but I would guess that it would be felt in the absence of trying to hurt. More awkward, and it would feel like they were trying to more tenderly connect vs. the spewing of hate and discontent. I'll let you know should I ever see it
I do know that MLC is a painful experience for all concerned.
What they do to navigate and deal with their actions is not a trip I wish on somebody, that's for sure.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
You'll see them try to insert themselves in your life over time. In my case, my ex remarried almost immediately after the divorce and then started to "harass" me about all kinds of mundane things. I once reminded her of something she said, and she flatly denied it. But I do recall the guilt she had at the time of leaving. It was hard to see that much guilt on somebody. There was no way to reach her or help her with it, but you could feel it. It was palpable. 