This explains a lot. I knew deep down as well. As a woman, I couldn't understand how there was no desire to communicate with you and very little with your sons. I felt, that her change in sexual preference must have been weighing heavily on her, and she was having difficulties coming to terms with it as well as probable backlash from friends/family. Her lack of communication was strange. I know there are many here who have very little communication with their WAS, but you have had none, and then the need for counselling. Not unusual again, but it all seemed to add up to me. Also, she never denied the affair, just didn't admit to it.
Well, as TTD says, it may be a faze. Can these things be a faze? or something that has been buried deeply for a long time. Now true happiness can begin for her. I know very little about these things. So now you know the truth. I wonder if she will ever talk to you face to face about it, now that she's out of the closet. I think she owes you that much.
Thanks TTD and GALbaby. It really is a strange experience to be in at the moment. Want to feel angry, but I don't know what to be angry at. What to feel sad, but don't know what to feel sad at. I suppose it is such a relief to be right. Not that we go through our new found journey wanting to be right either. But as you said GALbaby, everything about my sitch just didn't add up. Everything pointed to an affair. At least now I feel comfortable in a way knowing this is what happened. I really feel like ringing up the family and friends and say "I told you so", but I won't. I am still continuing my journey to becoming a better me. I won't contact anyone, I won't tell the world about the affair. Seriously, I doubt she is going to tell me at all. The biggest hurdle she is now going to go through is her sister. She lied to her sister and told her she wasn't haven't an affair. Her sister won't put up with that. I also wonder how my boys are going to deal with it. I know I will be home in 4 weeks, but I hope I can be of some help to them. I hope the family doesn't make it sound like it was a valid reason for their Mum to do this.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
