How to convince resistant LD wife?

[Ambivalent]

That receipt and Viagra is eating away at you causing resentment to come out. In fact, I can almost guess that your attitude is going to slowly change and you're going to see him as some kind of pervert. You're getting mad at him for something that he has no knowledge about.

Hahahaha! I am NOT resenting anything, and I'm NOT angry!

Oh my gosh this is just ridiculous ! Whether he has had sex with a prostitute or is having an affair, it isn't going to change anything. Whatever he's doing there is nothing I can do anything about. I've resigned myself to the probability.

I can almost guess that your attitude is going to slowly change and you're going to see him as some kind of pervert.

WOW, WOW, and WOW. Who's mind reading now?

then you imagined him with a mistress, then hookers

Yes , I agree. I imagined him with an alienator. That IS my biggest fear. Why, because he IS looking! Hookers? No, just one! And to be frank, I would prefer that. But whatever he may be doing, I'm hanging in there.

You are assuming an awful lot about where my head is presently. I'm finally okay with the probability, and am actually dealing with it! If I digress to any feelings about this , it will most likely be sorrow.

Regret over what I did and didn't do. How he didn't feel secure enough within himself to come to me and share his desires.

I have come to a place where I know that I have contributed to what he is going through. You are assuming that I want or need to confront him, because I have accepted the very real possibility.
The Replay stage of MLC is not the time to question him.

And pervert...reeeeally? I have more creativity and ideas about what I would like to explore with him , than you can even imagine. No it doesn't involve other people or animals ;D.

I am a bit frustrated, thinking about not learning what I know now,earlier. Look, I get he's going through MLC, and I get that he's going to try on different persona's . I'm even going to try and do the same. I'm thinking of getting some wigs!

I'm looking at this from a different perspective. Do I wish the possibility wasn't there? Absolutely! Do I wish that he would rather experiment with me? YES! But that's not my reality. He is out of our home.

So I'm going to be comfort and security right now. A place he can visit without fear of me being sad, angry, or judgemental.

Will I have future emotions...yeeees. I'm not dead, and this is the hardest thing I've ever had to do!

So Mr. Bond, lets move on and stop assuming things about me. Okay?