GUILT IS IT A GOOD SIGN?

[Ambivalent]

The MLCer will also want to sweep their crisis under the rug and not discuss what they did or didn't do or say during the crisis. Some will not remember everything and others are so ashamed of what they've done, they would much prefer to forget about it and move on w/life.

I can most definitely see this. That's why I believe my role, at this stage , is to not add to anymore guilt/shame. He's doing it to himself. Also, if I had done some of what he is most likely doing :D, I don't think I would want it thrown in my face.

I would feel such shame for hurting him. I already feel that way about my part of hurting him. I would rather be accepted from where I have come and the ability to work through it.

If I was constantly faced with a sad and hurt expression, or worse, I would run the other way.