What thoughts have you had regarding your situations when you just think of giving up and what prompts you to keep trying in the face of adversity?
In my case the kids and our financial situation were powerful motivators to keep trying. If we had no kids, I believe I would have moved on by now.
I listen to a good radio therapist and the issue of family versus spouse often arises in new marriages where a person is torn between what their family wants and what their spouse wants.
The therapist is very clear on this -- the spouse *must* come first. It is incumbent upon a spouse to stand with their spouse and push back on their family, full stop.
If you do get back together, this is definitely something you'll have to address. It is inappropriate for your wife to share things with her mother that you have said in confidence.
That said, your initial post on this thread was written with a lot of finality -- things will be this way "forever", this dynamic will "never" change, etc.
Really, anything can change given the proper motivation, so none of these issues are insurmountable, but they might be very *hard* to change, or might take a lot of time to change, and you need to assess if it's worth it to go through that or not.
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Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
