The Red Pill aka The Leap of Faith

[AJM]

Another way to look at it is that this is another data point. She shared a lot with you. That took a lot of the pressure off of her and you were able to listen in a disarming way. They are her feelings. They don't have to be what you feel or what you see. They just are what she feels at that point in time.

Overkill? It would be if your reasons to change are for her benefit. That's why you keep being asked about your intentions.

And yes, she is trying to demolish you. It must be frustrating for her to try that and yet see you not caving in, don't you think? You're taking away her justification for her actions. As that happens she has to re-evaluate. That means she has to look at her reasons. Again. That's not going to be easy for her.

As you dig into the parts that have truth, and all good stories have some truth in them, try to remember that they are her feelings and not necessarily reality. To her they are the same thing, but for you and your changes they may not be an accurate reflection of you. Or at least not an accurate portrayal. Only you can figure that out and you are responsible for you.

You're doing well and asking a lot of the right questions. Keep at it. Keep doing it for you.

Peace,
AJ