Hi wnycindy, I would bet that 99.9% of the people here are doing it alone. It's very rare that someone would find themselves on this board if their spouse is willing to engage with them to improve their marriage.

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Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015