Had an IC session today- my counselor thinks I should just move on and push the divorce through as quickly as possible.
I think he's being unrealistic to expect your W to change this quickly, it's barely been two months since you S'd. Things don't happen that fast.
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Reasoning is- WAS does not see/acknowledge any of her contribution to demise of the marriage, puts it squarely on me
Standard part of the WAS routine. It's going to be many months or even a year more more before your W starts owning her mistakes.
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What thoughts have you had regarding your situations when you just think of giving up and what prompts you to keep trying in the face of adversity?
Well keep in mind that we're working on us, not the marriage per se. We work on us in the hopes that it will indirectly affect our spouse and the M. If you're working on you, then that's not something you ever give up on. If you mean just totally walk away from the M and decide you're going to pursue a new R, well that's your choice of course and how long you stand before doing that is purely up to you. Some people give up after a couple of weeks, others after a few months. Some stand for years. I have done a bit of dating and let me tell you, there's nothing like dating to remind you just how difficult it is to "sync" with someone! In my opinion it's a lot easier to keep standing than it is to try and build a new R with a new person, LOL!
