Forgot to mention something that I would love to get some insight on from folks here………
In conversation last Tues, W also stated that after adoption of nephew is finalized “I know what comes next.”
When I asked what that meant she stated she would be filing for D after that process is completed. I kind of suspected that she may be thinking this but this is the first time she has verbalized it……. Not sure exactly what this means but I guess it provides a little more context in why she has been pushing for this more lately…….
Bit of background for those who may not be aware – S8 is actually nephew and has lived with us since he was 2. My brother and ex had him young and were too selfish to have child – went to stay with my parents for a few months and then on to us. Temporarily at first but after about a year we assumed would be longer Also, neither birth parent will contest the adoption.
Talked to L a while back and he termed this situation as “interesting” in the context of what W may be planning. Obviously if adoption is completed first he would be treated as 1 of 3 Ss for custody, child support, etc….. If not formally adopted, very murky how it would be handled given how long he has already been with us and no real support/interaction from bio parents…
Seems like adoption is right thing to do (for him) but have questions about what it may mean for him emotionally in the future, what to tell guardian ad-lietem during process, what to share in court, etc….
Thoughts or insights from anyone here – more of an outsider’s view of situation?
Me-48,W-51 M-22,T-24 S- 18,16,9 Feb-Jul '11 Away from Home, after initial B date Aug-Dec '11 Back at Home on couch Dec '11-now Same bedroom, room mates only Dec '14 W files initial D paperwork
