DARK - how do you do it right? I need help BADLY

[S4tk]

DTM,

I agree with the advice being given, and it does seem like D might be inevitable for you. So it makes sense to consult the lawyer, get things started, protect yourself, etc.

At the same time, I think there is just a lot of denial in you. Your W will always be mom to your kids, and it sounds like she loves them and is going to fight for them as well. At the very least, this probably will mean joint custody and a lot of angst about where in the country you will live. In other words, you will always be joined with her at least as your kids' baby mama.

So... even if this marital crisis is "mostly" W's fault... this is the perfect opportunity for you to become the man only a fool would leave. If not for current W, then for yourself, your kids, and a potential future spouse. I am on your side, but I do see some warning bells when you refer to things as all her fault, that you are "too much of a nice guy," etc. I am sure you are a nice guy, and I am affirming your need to move forward with legal measures if you deem it necessary.

I don't mean this so much as a 2x4 - rather as pointing out that you have a golden opportunity to reinvent yourself as a better person DTM 2.0.