Awesome news. I didn't even have to treat myself to something sweet today. I had a friend bring me lunch unsolicited that included a big helping of homemade banana pudding. For a Southern boy, there's not much better.

Thoughts: W did say last night that everything I was doing was "overkill." Not sure if she wants me to back off being friendly or what. As I talked to my friend who just conquered this about a year ago, some things came to mind. I have always been a little standoffish when W and I have been around folks, because we are always around people she knows and has history with. Maybe that's why that part bugs her so much. I am genuinely becoming friendly with people who have in the past seen me as her H and not an individual.

Looking back, I watched the woman I love sit and stand in front of me for an hour trying to demolish me. Her face went through so many emotions. She almost cried, she raged, she talked down to me, she used my kids against me, etc. I felt steady and strong during it all and she was completely disarmed. I thank everyone who has listened and shared here for helping me acquire the tools to survive. I know I have a long way to go in this thing, but progress for me is good.


Both 40
T-22 M-18
S13
S11

Bomb, ILYBINILWY-7/10/13
EA #1-confirmed 7/10/13, ongoing since 5/13
EA #2-9/13/13

Moved out and Legally Separated 6/14

"Success is a journey, not a destination."