W has been gone 15 days on a trip to pack all of our stuff at our previous residence OS. She returns in 2 days. I have been watching the kids full time during this time. W and I were in touch only about details of the packing, and for her to FaceTime with the kids.
Detach, detach, detach. Every thread I read is filled with this advice. I think I am beginning to GAL, and I think I am taking things a day at a time. I am even open to the idea of life without her as W if she chooses this.
But I think that since we are still under the same roof, and since lack of emotional connection was one of her main complaints about our R in the days following BD, I think my biggest fear is that one day she will say to me, "H, I told you this and this and this about our M," and you just went all passive and did nothing."
Now, I know the 180s are about actions and not words, but if we are doing the 180s for us, and not for them, then what are we doing to bust our D's? I know I will hear the words counter-intuitive and detach some more.
Let me be clear - I just feel like what I read in DR is just a bit different from the detachment idea I hear so much here. The former seems active, the second passive. Discuss amongst ya'selves.
s4tk
_________________________ Me: 37 W: 37 M: 11 D:5 S:2 IDLYA, W removed rings, BD 07/13 EA/Fantasy (PA?) confirmed 12/13 W moved out 05/14
