Sounds like he is convincing himself. In the Hero's Spouse, she had an article about subliminal positive comments.
I liked her attitude about when they "justify" their behavior.
For example , if your husbands says something like...
" once this is settled it'll be easier..."
you could say something to cause doubt...
" I could see how you may believe this, but I believe eventually you'll see that not to be true. It may even be more difficult . I have confidence you'll figure that out..."
Apparently causing doubt when they are confused sews the seeds of perhaps this is not the only way...maybe there is another alternative?
Rollercoaster reminds us that the OW maybe manipulating spouse for her selfish reasons, while countering their pressure with confidence and assurance may cause the MLCER to doubt themselves.
The mere fact that he continues to say the exact same phrase, and repeatedly sounds as if he is looking for another way out of his dilemma.
Does this ring true ? What do you think?
Formerly Workinprogress H :55 M :over 29 yrs. Together : 33 D : college D : adult BD and left : May 2013 Separated Experimenting/Replay
