Can I do this alone?

[Junsui]

Hey Cindy,

Let me preface this by saying that I'm fairly new at this myself, so if I say something that contradicts a vet, feel free to ignore!

Have you read DR yet? If you haven't, you'll soon see when you read it that you definitely can apply what you learn in the book by yourself. That's one of the great things about it is that it allows you to make changes for yourself and (hopefully) your M without your H needing to be on the same page. It's not dishonest to work on improving yourself and make changes that help you become a happier, more confident person.

Also, I believe in some of the techniques, depending on the exact details of your sitch, that it's actually best not to push the books and changes that you're trying to make in your H's face, particularly if he is not at the stage where is he ready to accept his part in what brought the M to this point and work on himself. My understanding as I've been working on it is that I first had to look at myself (GAL) and stop pursuing H.