GUILT IS IT A GOOD SIGN?

[Whiterose]

HMMMM lying = more info sometimes.....I'll have to keep that one filed away in the brain. Never thought about that.

I THINK H felt guilty at first. Never, ever, said anything to me other than he was super happy with everything but when his sister, when she was talking to me, would say things I got the feeling he was confused and felt guilty but not enough to change his ways. My H has HUGE self esteem issues, always always has, and does not like anyone thinking badly about him so if anything THIS was the main issue for him. He did comment a few times about how "fine, I'll be the bad guy" and "if you want everyone to think I'm an a$$hole" that he would, basically, sacrifice his good rep to get what was needed.....how kind, eh! haha

I'm an Italian Catholic, I know guilt, and I see more appearance based decisions over guilt based decision being made with my H but that doesn't mean I don't think that deep down he doesn't feel it.....I'm actually fairly certain he does at some level (mind reading, I know, no need to smack me:)) he just pushes those feelings away. He says over and over and over again "once this is settled it'll be easier" He has made this statement since the day he left and said it again just the other day to my cousin.....I wonder what he truly feels that he is refusing to acknowledge.

my 2 cents