I have no idea, La. Perhaps she is. All I DO KONW is that she has relocated several times. She has requested specialized bussing because it does not fit her personal needs to transport daughter to and from school, which was declined by the school district. She has also brought up changing the parenting plan. She has threatened to move daughter out of the country. Furthermore, My attorney was given a couple cues, that she believes is in wifes preparation for a battle for primary household. I am not mathematician, but I don't think I am out on a limb with my assumptions here.
Regardless, all I have filed for is a temporary parenting plan. That is something that is generally established in the majority of dissolution cases, right from the gate. It's not a vindictive move at all.
You're entitled to seek primary custody of your daughter, your her dad, living in her home.
I'm not sure that people here are arguing so much about that. Where you become so abrasive is insisting that people see it exactly the same way you do for the same reasons you do. People disagree with the details and your thread goes sideways.
I think this happened before about your home value too.
You have a right to ask for custody. Your job of convincing is with W, not us. If you don't convince her then your job is to get a lawyer to convince a judge.
Will you get farther by trying to become respectful of the differences between you and W? Or by pushing your views harder and piling on more judgments and criticisms of her? I would argue that even if you think this will get ugly, you might save a lot of time and heartache if you can have a respectful conversation and persuade W without the fight.
You can see that there are people in the world who don't think moving a kid is NECESSARILY particularly harmful, some of them are here and your wife is obviously one. It would be good to learn to approach different viewpoints with respect.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
You're entitled to seek primary custody of your daughter, your her dad, living in her home.
I'm not sure that people here are arguing so much about that. Where you become so abrasive is insisting that people see it exactly the same way you do for the same reasons you do. People disagree with the details and your thread goes sideways.
I think this happened before about your home value too.
Being argumentative and abrasive is never my intention. I will agree that I always want people to see things how I see them, or at least in what I think is factual. Granted, it is my version of a story, but I do not insist that anyone agree with me. I just want to be clear with my words and descriptions. Often, I go back to add detail, and I think that is where I become to appear abrasive. I will work on that. I do the same thing in person. It is not just in my writings. It is in my everyday. Perhaps a little OCD?
Originally Posted By: adinva
You have a right to ask for custody. Your job of convincing is with W, not us. If you don't convince her then your job is to get a lawyer to convince a judge.
Will you get farther by trying to become respectful of the differences between you and W? Or by pushing your views harder and piling on more judgments and criticisms of her? I would argue that even if you think this will get ugly, you might save a lot of time and heartache if you can have a respectful conversation and persuade W without the fight.
You can see that there are people in the world who don't think moving a kid is NECESSARILY particularly harmful, some of them are here and your wife is obviously one. It would be good to learn to approach different viewpoints with respect.
Life has been moving forward slowly, but in a positive direction. I am having a LOT more good days, and my emotions are in much more control. I have been GALing whenever possible, being a good dad and trying to stay focused on the good things. W and I have been fairly cordial with each other, even with the dark cloud of divorce and lawyers looming over us.
Geeez, just yesterday I post about life going well. Today, I wake up to one of the worst mornings in months. Slept terribly and woke up feeling sad. Didn't see that one coming. must be time to GAL!
Geeez, just yesterday I post about life going well. Today, I wake up to one of the worst mornings in months. Slept terribly and woke up feeling sad. Didn't see that one coming. must be time to GAL!
Well the good news is it's been quite a while since you reported that happening, so it's definitely becoming less and less of an issue I think we'll bear the scars of this our entire lives, we'll never be able to look back at it and not feel at least a twinge of pain. But your moral character is a product of the good, bad and ugly in your life, not just the good. In fact I would argue that true growth comes more from the bad things in life than the good.
I was able to work away most of my blues, well....some of my blues. I grabbed a shovel, dug some holes and transplanted some shrubs. Nothing like a little sweat and tears to change a mans perspective.
I do take some comfort in realizing that I haven't broke down this much in quite some time. I know I am healing, but I am not completely there. Even with the impending divorce, likely custody battle, W being in a full blown relationship, it is still hard for me to believe it is all happening. It's tough still. I think you're right, AS. The scars and the hurt will likely last a lifetime.
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
I am still struggling with the reality of it all. It's been over a year, but it's still seems very surreal to me. I am getting better and better every day in regards to my Mood and emotional swings. I have a lot of happy days, some bad too. It's life. It's just a very different version than I had ever pictured. I don't really like it much, especially when I look into my daughters eyes. That feeling will pass. I simply need to make a new "normal", that I enjoy so much, I never even think about my past life with W. I'm working on that!
Thanks for asking JP! I hope you're doing well. I need to stop by your thread and catch up.
I think we'll bear the scars of this our entire lives, we'll never be able to look back at it and not feel at least a twinge of pain. But your moral character is a product of the good, bad and ugly in your life, not just the good. In fact I would argue that true growth comes more from the bad things in life than the good.