Wife says she wants to leave

[Groov]

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She felt that i only went to bed when i wanted to have sex

I was always on my computer and too busy to help her with house work / my daughter


I would like to add that things have not been totally unbearable, in that i feel she has taken notice of some of the changes and is feeling a little better about them.

One thing I have really been working on, is consistently going to bed with her, not initiating sex, and trying to be affectionate without the expectation of sex. I will be completely honest with myself and you guys, I would feel really rejected and hurt (unwanted) when she would say no to me. And would sometimes cause a scene. After realizing how she felt (that i made her feel like i only wanted her for sex) I can totally understand why she would say no.

I totally get this... I can think back on my sitch and see these same patterns. Be careful in counselling. My W and I went a few years ago, then she decided she wanted to go for herself. After about 8 months of that everything seemed great in my eyes.

What I didn't realize was she was waiting for me to change, but didn't complain or nag. When that perceptively didn't happen. (I did make some major changes, but weren't the ones she had the issues with) She started to reject me when I asked to ML. I get the hurt that comes with this and I made scenes as well.

This pattern continued and then she once threatened to leave to MIL's. That's when I started to pursue her.... and then 2 months later, she's left...

So if I were you in your sitch. Get Divorce Remedy, Read it, Follow it, GAL, start making yourself happy.

Groov