I have a little bit of a different situation from most I have seen so I would enjoy any input. Me and my wife met online when I first joined the Army and then about four months later I had to move all the way to California in the middle of nowhere. Needless to say we were hopelessly in love and in between field problems all I would do is see her, or fly her out to California to be with her. So we got married fairly quickly (7 months). We did this in secret in Vegas and then got married with all the family present later and she came out to live with me. We lived here for about two years. It is VERY isolated and she never made friends or got a job (we have a dog we both love though, no kids).
So about a year in trouble started, we started to drift apart, stopped saying I love you all the time, sex slowed down, and then two months ago she told me she didnt love me and stopped wearing her ring. she left to visit friends last month and when she came back she said that she didnt want to come back but did anyways. This last week I got fed up and told her to leave, and she did. I thought it would be a good break for us, but now she wants out for good and doesnt even want to entertain the notion of counseling.
I know I have been doing it all wrong. You can pretty much tick off the mistakes I have made: pleading, reasoning, telling her i love her, telling her its a phase, and on and on. So That was Monday night and now I'm going to try all the tips I have read here about going on with your life. Its hard because I know she is the one for me and knowing she doesnt feel the same hurts (obviously...)
My biggest concern is that most of the time this doesnt happen to people until years into the relationship and this happened 2-3 years in. Has anyone experienced this and bounced back, or is this so soon it just won't work out probably? Thanks for any input guys!
