Building a lasting marriage 1

[jp787]

I would say it is a cycle for me and that cycle becomes a compulsion.

I seek reassurance (anxiety). I get reassurance (relief/fix). It fades and more anxiety, so I seek more reassurance. Just like a drug, the feel good period get shorter and shorter and I seek more and more reassurance.

This is something I need to find with-in myself. Self reassurance, self soothing.

Funny note... Example of our codependence. W was in her IC and was asked by therapist if I knew how to self sooth, W without thinking, said "I haven't taught him that yet" They both laughed as did I when told the story. We all know the significance of what was said and meant as it was part of our codependence.