This DBing stuff is definitely counter intuitive. I found myself calm while she spewed at me with the most anger she has in a long time. I listened to her like I've never listened to her before. She told me so much last night. She said that she just wanted an emotional connection and someone to care about her and things that she cared about in her life. She admitted that she had put up a wall and refused to even attempt anything to make it better or accept that I was changing.
Yes, it is. As I was once told, life is a test....and buddy, you scored pretty well last night.
So when she says you can't change, or it's not real, or it's a show, and then throws all that sh!t at you, and you remain calm, listen and validate, what's that telling her?
I will also echo what Mach1 said....almost all of that sounds like script to me. I heard most of it myself.
