Intro - hoping for support/advice on DBing

[melissag]

As for the apartment and being separated, even though we already had been apart M-F for the previous four years and even though H had brand new relationship, he still wasn't happy (he told me he expected to be happy when he left and four months later I was happy and he wasn't).

In my head I built up how wonderful everything must be, going out with Massage Girl and her friends, living on your own, weekends free!! No kids, no responsibility.

Turns out that none of this was really true. I was making up his life in my head, just like you are.

Thanks, K_P. It's funny, because I give myself free rein to believe that he is loving life and super happy, but I hesitate to allow myself to believe that he is not. I guess the point is I really shouldn't be trying to figure out how he feels because the truth is I have no idea, and it's just making me crazy.