For the wedding, I like the the idea of explaining the children will need clothes. Use that as an opener and see where it goes. If he offers to take them shopping then he does.
As for the apartment and being separated, even though we already had been apart M-F for the previous four years and even though H had brand new relationship, he still wasn't happy (he told me he expected to be happy when he left and four months later I was happy and he wasn't).
In my head I built up how wonderful everything must be, going out with Massage Girl and her friends, living on your own, weekends free!! No kids, no responsibility.
Turns out that none of this was really true. I was making up his life in my head, just like you are.
