Hi all. I'm new here.

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My W also told me what brought her back was my patience without pressure. Although I screwed that up many times during those 14 months.

I also want to add during our 7 months reconciliation she consistently referred to me as her husband even though we are common law. She never called me her bf. I loved that about her. Made me feel like she was in it.

Oh and another thing she said to me... Said she wanted to get married a long time ago. That confused me because we were only back together for 7 months. Was she expecting marriage right after we reconciled? I actually did propose to her before we broke up. Now that I think about it she has left me multiple times. The first time was back in 2011 just after my bday(why does she do that!!) that lasted 2 weeks. She left because I wouldn't go to counseling and she viewed the relationship as toxic. After we got back together is when I proposed to her. Then she left me again just after valentines day in 2012. Again, she felt we were toxic even though we rarely fought. She has this way of remembering only the negatives and brushes away the positives. She does that with everything in her life. People with bpd do that. Again, I'm not saying she is bipolar. I just thinks she exhibits lots of mild traits of different personality disorders just above what "normal" people feel.

Man I can't wait to get off moderation. It's so hard to post or reply when it doesn't show up for days. But I'm sure you guys are all aware of that:)