It was the best of times it was the worst of times

[Mimi00]

I totally understand the "non-sacredness" bc she's telling her mother things...my H has told his sister a lot. I even saw he forwarded on of my emails to her. The sharing is the one thingg that makes me really angry b/c I am a private person and I have not bad mouthed my H to anyone...everyone I have talked to about my sitch, I only tell my wrongs...not his.

BUT you are right the dynamics b/n her family and you MAY for ever be changed (if they are not mature and forgiving people)....but that is a risk you have to be willing to take. I know if my H did ever come back it would be me and him against the world b/c my parents, who treated him as their own, have wiped their hands of him. My brother thinks he's a joke and they would definitely think I was a fool to go back to him. And I definitely would not want to be around his sister for some time. But my love for him is that strong that if we reconciled I would be willing to step away from everyone who didn't support.

I've had many thoughts of just giving up even today....b/c honestly sometimes I don't even care anymore.

Instead I decide to keep faith God will work this marriage out on my behalf...and even if it doesn't work in my favor....I will be better for going through the fire until the end.

My H wants out, let him do all the research and work to do so.
The ending of the marriage will be on his hands not mine.

Seeing as you were the bread winner its a different dynamic to have a W who says she doesnt "want" you but still "needs" you financially. I can see how that would be a hard thing to deal with. Where as my H doesn't want me or need me lol...if your W wants to go she does have to put her big girl pants on at some point and start taking care of her self. Have her parents "spolied" her in a way? Has she ever been on her own and had to take care of herself 100?