THINK LIKE HARE MOVE LIKE A TORTOISE

[tigerlily78]

That is so great that you invited BIL and he accepted. I think it will make a big difference to be acting "as if" everything is the same.

I am struggling with this myself... My son and I don't have any family here, except my inlaws and we have been estranged from them for close to 2 years. I know my son really wants H to be with us for Thanksgiving, I am thinking of having him ask H what his plans are rather than me having to do it. He may feel better about making a commitment to do it "for our son" than for me. :P