Yes, I keep in regular contact with OM's wife. Her husband is out almost everynight, so its hard to match when OM and my wife are both out. But we report to each other what times they come home. Some nights, they arrive home very close in time. OM's wife thinks her husband is worried about divorce because he might lose custody of his young children. And he owns several companies, all built up during the marriage. Hawaii is a no fault divorce state. Assets/Debts are divided up pretty much 50/50. According to her, his main goal in life is to make money (he grew up poor). So facing possibility of losing half the value of his self built businesses must bother him a lot. His wife doesn't work. So alimony at least temporarily and child support the next 10 years. He will take a big hit financially.
Also, My wife is a couple years older than his wife, so its not like he is picking up some much younger babe. My wife will have joint custody of our three kids aif we divorce. I don't see how their relationship looks promising. Especially after knowing they both had a big part in destroying two families with young kids and they both cheated. Not a good way to continue a relationship. I'm sure it was fun when the affair was secret.
Also, my wife is still keeping up the charade. She is still trying to hide the fact that the affair is ongoing. In fact she denies it. If it's really over for her, why lie about it? Hawaii is a no-fault divorce state. The courts generally do not consider the affair as a factor in the divorce. I'm sure her lawyer advised her. She already got served the D papers too. I could dismiss the complaint. But not sure if I should.
