Yes, it is a very fine line. I like the idea of telling him that it hurts you, esp if you are getting along, having a good time together and you say it nicely. It lets him know how you feel but your other actions are also showing a loving, caring W to return to.
As for the wedding, you can either get them something to wear (we know how much fun it is to shop for dresses with our Ds!) or, just let H know that they don't have anything appropriate to wear and you want to give him a heads up so he has time to get them something. That way, he has to handle it but you aren't leaving him hanging at the last minute because he hasn't even thought about it.
M 46 H 44 D 12 S 8 M 9 T 11 BD 2/15/13 "Makes sense to stay together" 5/12/13 Agree we are 'healing' 7/13 Definitely Piecing 9/13