"Yep I'm not holding out much hope that when she leaves she will be back, I think to much damage has been done."

Not really. It depends on YOUR perception.

"To be honest, I probably was not the healthiest when I remarried"

So what ACTION are you planning to do? What is your plan? Write them down.

M-43 W-40
2D - 9 and 5

Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

RECONCILED AND WISER