Just reading some other threads and some how I get the impression that a lot of this journey the lbs is on is to help cope with the d without resentment or bitterness and being able to walk away, not so much repair the m, if it happens great.
Well, I think that is semi-true. The theory is that DBing does two things: (1) it is the best way for you to cope, detach and feel good about yourself, regardless of what happens with your WAS; and (2) it also happens to offer the highest possibility with R. I know for me, and I imagine for others, it may start with more of the emphasis on repairing the M, but as time goes on you get the hang of it and it truly does become about you. I also think it seems that the M isn't likely to be restored unless and until you get to the point where it is about you.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
