This is clearly not a deal breaker for me Mach. I'm just a little incredulous that she would be irresponsible to this depth. She told me during one actually productive R talk a while back that she didn't want any responsibility and she felt trapped by it all. I guess I should have jumped this situation a lot sooner. Just something else to wrap my head around, take control if, and stand on my own 2 feet about.
I will accept my own responsibility in allowing this to happen. She has always taken the lead in our finances and I was just fine with being basically out of it.
It does hurt to know that it's one more thing that I've been lied to about. I know her issues are not about me, but this could ruin me. My bruised ego and broken heart and all that other stuff will heal. My financial report after bankruptcy isn't quite as resilient.
Okay, so work with a new perspective here....
Perhaps, as some wise lady said in a book one time...
Do a 180 ???
Yea, accept your role, and you are only honoring her wishes.....right ???
You wanted to alleviate her responsibility.....
THAT is all that you HAVE to say....
Let her wonder about the rest for now...
And let me ask you one more thing...
Would you trade your financial report, for your marriage ???
