This is clearly not a deal breaker for me Mach. I'm just a little incredulous that she would be irresponsible to this depth. She told me during one actually productive R talk a while back that she didn't want any responsibility and she felt trapped by it all. I guess I should have jumped this situation a lot sooner. Just something else to wrap my head around, take control if, and stand on my own 2 feet about.
I will accept my own responsibility in allowing this to happen. She has always taken the lead in our finances and I was just fine with being basically out of it.
It does hurt to know that it's one more thing that I've been lied to about. I know her issues are not about me, but this could ruin me. My bruised ego and broken heart and all that other stuff will heal. My financial report after bankruptcy isn't quite as resilient.
Both 40 T-22 M-18 S13 S11
Bomb, ILYBINILWY-7/10/13 EA #1-confirmed 7/10/13, ongoing since 5/13 EA #2-9/13/13
