You know J, my xh did some horrific things to me financially. I will probably not ever recover from them.
The thing is that I am ok. Yes, I was angry and hurt that he did them. Yes, I wish with everything I have that he didnt.
But, I learned how strong I am. I learned that the things he did are separate from the love I had.
Your wife is in crisis. Now, that doesnt give her a free pass. But it does show you that the woman you knew for all those years, wouldnt do the things she is doing now.
I get the anger, the disappointment, the disbelief. I do.
So, take a little time to feel that. Then, do what you need to do to protect yourself.
Put away the judgement right now. It doesnt serve you well.
If you hold onto those feelings, you lose yourself. You stop your growth.
