I am in desperate need of advice. Any advice and 2x4s welcome.
1st off- 48 hour rule in effect. And in this circumstance I would take your time much further in deciding what your next steps may be.
Originally Posted By: 3boyzmom
For the first time I truly truly understand that H is done. He is gone and feels nothing for me.
As AS said, he felt this way on Sunday and may still. This may be how he feels now. And it will be how he feels until he feels a different way.
Originally Posted By: 3boyzmom
He wants time with the kids and family time with kids and me and wants to be single and continue his A. His says that our family time is the only thing he and I have left. Without it we will have nothing. H thinks that if we get divorced, we will still have family nights and he will just tell his new girlfriend or wife that she has to be OK with that.
Are you ok with this?
Are you ok being in a relationship with him while he is in a relationship with another woman?
Were you not aware he was having an affair?
If you knew, then what has really changed?
Is it those few words he said that leads you to believe he is done?
It seems to me that you are looking to your H to find your answers and to dictate what you will do next.
What does 3bm want to do? How do you want to lead your kids through this time?
I would really like you to think about what you think is best for you and your kids.
To completely take your H out of the equation in order to make a decision not to induce a reaction or to prevent a reaction by him but regardless of any reaction.
Nothing needs to be decided today, tomorrow, this week, or this month.
And if you do decide to change up something and it doesn't work for you then you can re-address and look for an alternative solution.
