THINK LIKE HARE MOVE LIKE A TORTOISE

[Ambivalent]

Thanks ladies. I have part two for tomorrow, it will blow your socks off!

I'm really trying Pud. The detaching is my major goal at present . If I can just treat him like a friend that has been selfish, it may help me.
I tend to distance myself from a girlfriend who has the "it's all about me attitude". She tends to be a bit spoiled and VERY competitive with things . I don't like to go there, I reserve my competitiveness for the tennis courts.

I'm ruthless there, within all the rules of course, but very focused on playing well and winning. I feel like I should start playing again. It really gives me a confidence boost.

I'm afraid if I spend the money, I'll get grief though. [ SIGH ]

So far I've checked off most of my list, and it feels very good. Lists do help me to feel accomplished, and doing more on my list makes it even better!

My oldest daughter texted me about Thanksgiving. She is really reaching out. Not her normal behavior pattern, but I'm going with it. She wants to order the Turkey and she is bringing a dish! Uh WOW!

Question: My brother in law has celebrated the upcoming holidays with us for oh say 28 years. I don't want to exclude him from them. I'm thinking of just acting "as if" he is planning on coming and sending him a text...

" Hey BIL, will you bring a wine good with Turkey? Also the girls do really love the cider/mock champagne, would you bring a couple of bottles of that as well? Oh and don't forget to bring containers for left over turkey, gobble gobble. Thanks! "

I don't want everyone's lives turned upside down because of experiment man's behavior. My BIL is a lifelong bachelor, and lives alone. He's a nice man, and the girls have also always known him to come to every family event.

Anyhoo, thoughts would be appreciated. Thanks