Worried about not addressing it. Have handled the 2 credit cards. Both were small balances that can be handled in a short time. (Around $1000 total) Only reason I found these was that the original company had been bought out and they shipped new cards. these cards haven't even been activated, but the previous balances are there. Cancelled an automate shipment of protein supplement shakes that are rotting in our cabinet. She has never used them, yet they keep coming every month. $30 a month.
The more I dig today, the more depressed and angry I get. Signed up for online banking and it doesn't look like she's done anything crazy from our checking account, but doesn't reconcile why she has another account out there that she is obviously funneling money into.
We don't make a lot of money, but dang, we can keep up with the basic bills. All the while, she is spending money on hair color, anti aging skin cream, new outfits, body wraps, etc. Since I've lost weight, I've bought clothes to fit me at Goodwill and other discount stores. I'm no fashion plate. A suitable pair of khakis or jeans and a button up shirt will get me through most everything.
Just found a medical bill for almost $500 unpaid since May. along with the power bill that looks to be 2 months behind. Just keeps getting worse.
A couple of years ago, I found out about a payday loan that she had taken out. The turds at the agency wouldn't even give me info about it, because it was solely in her name. They even agreed that if she died tomorrow, it would be my debt to pay, but wouldn't give me any info. I had to confront her about that.
My taking over the financial goings on will be intruding on more of her territory. There is liable to be venom and spew, but I can't afford for it to continue. I almost opened up my own account while at the bank this morning. Looks like I should go ahead and do that.
Not sure when I'll be ready to address this with her. I know she's gonna question me about it when she sees online payments that I've arranged to keep things paid.
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Bomb, ILYBINILWY-7/10/13 EA #1-confirmed 7/10/13, ongoing since 5/13 EA #2-9/13/13
