uR: No worries!!! I'm glad you asked because it made me really think about it to make sure that I knew what my own motives were!

And, yes, rH and others....by my NOT reacting immediately and NOT rushing to talk about stuff, it is helping me to have healthier interactions with H.

I'm taking my time to think about what I'm going to say...and to determine if I even need to say it or not.

For me, it's really been a "growing up" thing...realizing that I don't HAVE to say everything that I WANT to say! LOL!