Some issues that she has outlined since everything came out:
She felt neglected and that i didnt care about her
She felt that i only went to bed when i wanted to have sex
I was always on my computer and too busy to help her with house work / my daughter
I would like to add that things have not been totally unbearable, in that i feel she has taken notice of some of the changes and is feeling a little better about them.
One thing I have really been working on, is consistently going to bed with her, not initiating sex, and trying to be affectionate without the expectation of sex. I will be completely honest with myself and you guys, I would feel really rejected and hurt (unwanted) when she would say no to me. And would sometimes cause a scene. After realizing how she felt (that i made her feel like i only wanted her for sex) I can totally understand why she would say no.
I understand that the blame is not all mine. But the more and more i look at it, i realize that i have definately not been the best husband.
