Since my name is not on the account, lady at the bank couldn't tell me the other name. My guess is OM, BFF whose had financial struggles, or her mom in anticipation of leaving. Either way, pi$$es me off that she has let our financial security go. I don't care if she loves me or not, the children have to have a house and transportation. I can ignore lots of behavior, but not this. She has also opened up 2 credit cards in my name without my knowledge. Not ours, mine.
I will approach this with as little judgement and blame as possible. I know I share in this because I have not taken a more active role in our finances. Gonna try to avoid a big nasty blow up tonight. I know this will become whatever I let it become. I am in control of how the convo goes.
Any advice from vets would be greatly appreciated on this front. How can I approach this subject without coming off as a parent?
Both 40 T-22 M-18 S13 S11
Bomb, ILYBINILWY-7/10/13 EA #1-confirmed 7/10/13, ongoing since 5/13 EA #2-9/13/13
